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The Photography World – Where have I been?

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, but if you listen to contemporary science, it says out of sight, out of mind. Regular exposure to someone or something is what makes us fall and stay in love apparently. Now I don’t know what really happens, but I do know that somethings just won’t leave you alone, no matter how long you’re gone.

Photography hey, I still love it. Yes, it’s been hard to recapture the excitement and enthusiasm I first had for it after a trip to Paris in April 2010, but nearly 7 years on, and I still keep coming back. 

I used to blog and post photographs regularly, but in the end, I just fizzled out. A travel photographer hasn’t got to worry about any of that. They can keep blogging as long as it takes them to run out of places in the world to visit, but for other people, the constant inspiration is hard to consistently find. I live in Newbury, Berkshire, and whilst I have nothing but good things to say about my hometown, it’s not exactly Venice. It has a nice canal though.

I checked my Adobe Lightroom Library and it shows that between September 2015 and September 2016, I took no photos at all. Photography was not really in my mind at all then. I’d become interested in other fields such as personal development, which though I am still interested in, I have learned to pursue along with my passion for photography.

Things started to change for me around the middle of last year, when I began working with a local architect to produce images for their website and marketing materials. I wasn’t sure at first if I wanted to go back down the photography route (and if I could make money doing it) but I have done several shoots for them since, and it has been an absolute blast. I relaunched my KelbyOne membership (photography training site) last November, and my drive and passion for photography has come back intact. All the work I have done since September has been business, but I am keen to rekindle my artistic photography work as well.

I am thrilled from the feedback on my Facebook page (and the new followers) that people still enjoy my photography, and I want to be on here as much as I can, sharing my thoughts and of course, providing lots of photos. I have included a selection of my recent architectural shots here. I hope you like them!

All the best,


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Coaching is for the Whole Company, not just the Top

Jubilant peopleThere is a little known fact that at Lincoln City Football Club, only the best players receive any coaching prior to the next game. The less regarded players turn up to the games and are expected to pick up from the senior players, what their role for the game is. Now that fact is little known because of course it isn’t true. No football club would be run in such a manner. And yet how many companies can look at themselves today and state that their businesses are not being run like this?

No professional footballer, rugby player, basketball player, golfer etc. is good enough to not require coaching. Andy Murray is currently the number one tennis player in the world and I am sure is a better tennis player than his coach. So why bother with one? It’s simple; because a coach’s expertise is knowing how to evolve a certain player’s game, analyse the performance and provide guidance and motivation along the way. They can see what the player needs to work on, more than the player themselves. At the elite level of sports, the margins of winning and losing are sometimes so small, that the role of a coach in being on the right side of that margin is an important part of success.

Great business leaders have coaches as well. In fact, great success stories in any field, have coaches and mentors. I know of a hugely successful National Geographic photographer who still attends training workshops of another legendary photographer. It all points to the fact that training is necessary for improvement and achievement. It is a genuine mystery to me that there isn’t a habit of coaching all staff at any levels of a business. A company, like a sports team, has the staff (players) on hand to make the company a winning team, or a bunch of underachievers. The success of a company lies it in staff. Doesn’t it make sense to invest heavily in this asset? Or are they not confident in the players on board to invest in coaching?

Of course, a managing director or department head needs to look at their staff and assess if they have the right people for the job in hand. When a new manager comes into a sports team, some players are let go, and some are brought in, but you can’t just begin the coaching process until you have just the right people you want. The coaching process has to be present and consistent throughout an organisation’s life. If it wants the staff to perform, it has to invest in their development, and not just the technical side of how to do the job, but in the emotional side of who they are, and what they need to perform to an excellent standard. I know that not everyone is open to the coaching process, but again, we can’t shut the door on the process, because it won’t work for some people. If the alternative to coaching is to just hope they do better, without identifying their goals, strengths and skills, then good luck to a company that runs with that philosophy.

It’s time to abandon the philosophy in business of only the higher levels of employees receiving business coaching. Yes, some employees will be self-driven and will rise above other employees regardless of training. But we can’t bet the success of the company on chance. How can developing and coaching employees at all levels be a great risk? Fear of loss on the investment I guess. Costs need explaining. Make the company a runaway, profitable success, and the costs tend to not look so important.


The Problem with Giving Advice to your Younger Self

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Oh to be 18 again. I had no idea then, the difference I could make in the world. Man, if I had known then what I know now, wow, I’d be like a millionaire probably. I’d be so popular too! I’d have never wasted all that time mastering the art of evading police capture on Grand Theft Auto: Vice City. And what was I thinking going out and having fun every Friday night?!

We can only make great changes if we accept where we are, what we’ve done and plan for the future from there. However, what seems increasingly more common on social media these days, is the phenomenon of asking what advice you would give to your younger self. It was even the number 1 trend on Twitter over the weekend #WhatIWouldTellA15YearOldMe.

Now one of the problems with giving advice to your younger self is obvious. You can’t do it. But even if you could, do you really think it would change anything? No, it wouldn’t. I say that with great confidence. And the reason it wouldn’t is because all the wisdom you have gained in life, was available to you at 15. The problem is it meant nothing to you then, and you probably wouldn’t have listened anyway. I must have heard over 100 times before I was 15 that ‘you get out of life, what you put into it’. I hated it then and only grudgingly accept it now. Of course it is true to a large degree, you will reap what you sow. But it took me another 15 years to really understand and appreciate the sentiment.

You are wiser now because you have had to go through life and learn all those valuable lessons. It does not mean much to be told them. You have to experience them. For instance, people skills aren’t developed by telling someone to listen well, to not be intimidated by others and to talk in terms of their interest. These are all sound techniques to develop people skills, but they have to be learned by experience. The advice was always there, but there was nothing connecting you to it.

So do yourself a favour. If you take all the things you have learnt in life and want to give advice to a version of yourself, give it to yourself TODAY. It is the only version of you that counts. Today you are the 15 year old version of you, the 18 year old, the 21 year old, the 30 year old and so on. You are everything you have been through and learnt. Don’t wish to be able to give advice to your younger self, when the advice you give yourself today is the only advice that can change things for the better. Your 15 years from now self will thank you for it.


Your Secret and Unique Code to a Happier Life

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“I’m a twenty-digit combination to unlock” – I Keep Mine Hidden by The Smiths

The tears were streaming down their faces. They were hugging each other in the isles. They even needed a few extra moments to compose themselves before leaving. Yes, we all miss a good wedding on a beautiful summers day, but this was a screening of a film called A Monster Calls last Friday night. The emotions of the cinema-goers that day were very real too.

I will refrain from a full critical analysis of the film, but I will say that it did not have the previously mentioned effect on me. The emotion was indeed high; what film about a boy’s struggle to deal with his mother’s terminal illness wouldn’t be? I questioned myself afterwards to conclude if I really do have a heart of stone, but luckily, I think that is a negative. Whilst the film does indeed try to be very philosophical, the key lesson I took from the film was actually whilst watching the audience. And it was simply this; that my truth is not your truth and your truth is not mine.

When we watch a particular movie at the cinema, we bring to it our whole life experience up to that moment. This goes for every single moment of our lives. A strong, emotional film such as A Monster Calls can remind us of certain experiences along our life’s journey and tug on our heartstrings. But of course we all have different experiences and different emotional sensors, and so a film of any kind cannot hit us all in exactly the same way. It takes the right code of emotional impact to unlock all that happiness, pain, sadness and beauty that can cause people to become a teary wreck in their seats.

The code to unlock all our emotional sensors, including happiness, is unique to us, and so we have to find it out ourselves. It is a humbling realisation for someone who wants to coach and train people in personal development. Fortunately, there are many traits and consistencies of success and happiness, but if there was 1 exact code, we could all punch it in and everything would be fine right? Well there isn’t, and that is why my truth is not yours. It is why relying on persuasion is often doomed to fail. What makes me happy, may not make you happy and what I think is true, is not necessarily what you see as true. Our best chance of helping others is if we get to know who they are and realise the struggles and challenges they have had. Only then can we help them unlock their code together.

The only way we can help ourselves become happy or successful is to go through life as inspiration directs. Find that book today you think you need to read. If something is telling you to watch a certain film, go and watch it. Contact that person your brain keeps telling you to. Inspiration, or a ‘gut feeling’, is a mysterious topic, but wherever it comes from, listen to it and let it guide you. Some things will work and some won’t, but along the way you will discover more truth about yourself. The unique truth that can lead you to a better life.


10 Lessons in Life and Business from a Roman Emperor

Image of Roman Forum in Rome, Italy during sunrise.

Looking for the answers on how to lead a good, successful life is nothing new to the modern business age. The greatest thinkers since the dawn of time have been questioning and guiding people on how to lead a better life. Somewhere along that journey came Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor from 161 to 180 AD. Aurelius was the modern equivalent of a good journal writer, and wrote many philosophical statements to himself, to help him as a person and Roman leader, at a time of great conflict. These writings were collected after his death and later became known as the book Meditations, which has been held in high esteem as a classic ever since. It is a great book of personal development from the ancient world.

Whilst each passage of the 12 chapters can be carefully analysed, I have identified 10 key passages from Meditations that can help people in their personal and business lives:

1. If you set yourself to your present task along the path of true reason, with all determination, vigour and goodwill……then you will lead a good life. And nobody is able to stop you.

The ending to that statement is so key: “You will lead a good life. And nobody is able to stop you”. The message is clear; the power lies with you. All the aspects that make up a good life cannot be taken away by anyone. They have to be achieved by you of course, but if you focus on the task at hand with an uplifting and determined attitude, then the good life is what will result. The good life is an attitude, not a place.

2. Most of what we say and do is unnecessary: remove the superfluity, and you will have more time and less bother. So in every case one should prompt oneself: ‘Is this, or is it not, something necessary?’

Jim Rohn also used to say ‘Make sure you don’t major in minor things’. So much of what we say and do is unimportant and leads to nothing. If you want to live a more purposeful life, then question everything you are doing, and what the result will be. For instance, if you are speaking to people in a business sense, cover the key points and benefits of what you are saying, without the waffle on the side. Attention spans are much shorter than most people think, and you will lose people quickly if there is no understanding where a certain speech or conversation is going. Be more clear and concise with your words and tasks, and you will gain back a lot of time to concentrate on other things.

3. In this world there is only one thing of value, to live out your life in truth and justice, tolerant of those who are neither true not just.

There are bad people around. Simple as that. People with few morals, self-centred and with a lack of care for the results of their words or actions. The answer is to be a good person in spite of the bad people we will encounter. Few people change much during their life, and it is asking a lot for us to think we can make bad people good overnight. Being confident in yourself by leading an honest and just life, is a great armour to have in the world.

4. Imagine you were now dead, or had not lived before this moment. Now view the rest of your life as a bonus, and live it as nature directs.

This is a common theme throughout Meditations; the shortness of life and the struggle against time. We must be grateful for the time we have on this Earth, and not forget that it can be over at any moment.  Whilst I don’t believe we should live everyday as it if was our last (those flights to the tropical beach will shred any savings plan pretty quickly), we must realise that every day we have is a day to make a difference to the world and our life. Align yourself with your true ambitions, that show who you are at your best, and time need never be wasted.

5. Dig inside yourself. Inside there is a spring of goodness ready to gush at any moment, if you keep digging.

You know you are good. But have people really seen how good? Personal development should be important to everyone. There are great talents and skills within you, but they must be worked on, they don’t appear for free. After planting the seed, the flower still needs water. And not just once. Again and again and again. Only by continual work on yourself, by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone on a regular basis, will your true abilities and talents emerge.

6. Always remember this: remember too that the happy life depends on very little.

 Happiness is rarely ‘out there’. It’s not a case of having more, but being content with what you have. Studies have shown time and time again that money is not a key driver of happiness and in fact only contributes to your mental well-being up to a certain amount (a household income of around $75,000 a year on average if you’re interested). The real difference in happiness is created by who you are and what you do. Leading an altruistic lifestyle, with a sense of integrity and justice, and positive family and friend relationships, contribute far more to your level of happiness.

7. Every living organism is fulfilled when it follows the right path for its own nature.

Wayne Dyer used to call this concept ‘alignment with source’. In essence, it means that if you are bold and pursue your own ambitions and talents, then great things seem to happen easily. Your success is likely to be far greater if you follow the things you want to do and are good at, than if you choose a life of conformity and security. It requires a bit of faith and determination, but following your natural path is the key to your success moving to autopilot.

8. You must compose your life action by action, and be satisfied if each action achieves its own end as best can be: and no one can prevent you from that achievement.

Whilst it is essential to have a vision of where you want to be, you achieve that vision by focusing on what is right in front of you. Every action you take has a desired result, and the best thing to do at any moment is to complete the task at hand. It is important that the actions taken to accomplish a particular goal or vision are clear. Without the plan as to how you are going to achieve the goal, you are setting yourself up for failure. It would be like having a map showing your end destination but without the roads leading up to it.

9. Someone despises me? That is his concern. But I will see to it that I am not found guilty of any word or action deserving contempt. I will be kind and well-intentioned to all, and ready to show this very person what he is failing to see – not in any criticism or display of tolerance, but with genuine good will.

Being a good person means being good to good people and good to bad people. We cannot let ourselves be distracted or knocked off course by other people’s opinions. Whilst it is human to be sensitive to criticism, especially unjust criticism, we must have the strength to be true to ourselves and not let any unjust treatment allow us to respond in ways inconsistent with our own morals and values. If there is any way to change a bad person, it must be to show the value of being a good person and all the rewards that go with it.

10. The good and honest man should have the same effect as the unwashed – anyone close by as he passes detects the aura at once.

I was at a training session recently regarding anti-corruption laws, and the trainer said that a company can pay fines and improve its practices going forward but it cannot buy reputation. Your reputation is the accumulative effect of all the actions you have taken in life. It does not come quickly and easily, and can be lost in an instant. People will know a good company or person by the way they consistently act. It should not be a question whether someone is good, effective or trustworthy, it should be clear to see.

Recommended reading: Marcus Aurelius – Meditations